You don't have to be "right" all the time...

It only takes me a few minutes scrolling around on social media to find out way too many people are angry these days…

And they're angry about all sorts of things: the Presidential race, weather spoiling their plans, a spouse forgetting to get bread with the milk, their weight, their job, their kids teachers, their relationship status, their car - or lack of one, their financial status, their boss, a referee's call, the change on a $20 bill and more...

People are angry about everything and anything. And what’s worse?


Ok, so generally argumentative people annoy me. I can’t help it. You know the type.  If you have an opinion about something - they must have a different opinion. And they must be right. And for them to be right - you must be wrong. No matter what.  Even IF there really isn’t even a morally grounded, spiritually or ethically founded, “right” or “wrong”.  It can’t just be a difference of opinion.  Heck no. Not to them. In fact, not only will generally argumentative people argue their position - they’ll literally attack you for not agreeing with *their* opinion. 


For heaven’s sake, why can’t people learn to "agree to disagree" WITHOUT being disagreeable?! Because truthfully - we can disagree about the facts, but being disagreeable is an attitude.   Or maybe people can just stop trying to be “right” all the time.  I mean, it’s gotta be exhausting.  It’s like I want to ask them, “Come on now - be honest...don’t you ever just get a wee bit tired of destroying relationships in your pursuit of rightness?”

While the Bible says in 2 Timothy 2:24 “Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights.”  However, I've found that many Christians have decided that that particular verse doesn’t really “apply” to them.  Especially when they think they are “right”. And we, (yes even some of us peace-seekers), can *always* have a tendency to think we're right. Even on things we’re not. Because we're selfish too.  I’m just sayin.  And we are ALL pros at getting involved in all sort of foolish, ignorant arguments...shoot - if it were an Olympic sport - many of us would be gold medalers!

This is not to our benefit friends.

Randy Alcorn questions in his book “Happiness”, that “How is it that perpetual disdain, suspicion, unkindness, and hostility are seen as taking the spiritual high ground?...Some professing Christians feel morally superior to those who engage with culture, and as a result they major on making world-condemning judgements.”

To me they just sound angry...

I don’t know exactly where I’m headed in life or what God is going to do in - and through my life - but I know this.  I really don’t want to become an angry Christian.  Or even be interpreted as an angry Christian.  

John 17:23 calls us to unity.  That’s not to be confused with uniformity or unanimity.  We aren't all going to think alike, dress alike, talk alike, or even VOTE alike.  It does mean that even if we disagree, we should and can be united in Christ’s love. Because we love Jesus, and because of HIS love for US - we can love each other! Even on matters we disagree on. And we should seek the common ground in all of our relationships.

Listen Right-Requirer, you have my permission to maintain friendships with people you don't agree entirely on everything with. :-) Work on it anyway.  Jesus certainly did. (Luke 7:34) 

Because some of you out there reading this will want to argue your "rightness"on some issues, I will agree there are some fundamental things we as Christians are right about.  Like Jesus dying on the cross for the sin of all mankind. (Galations 1:4)  We are right about that. You're welcome.  So how about we just spend some time kindly defending that truth and not killing each other over a preferred style of worship, whether or not a nose ring is acceptable, or tattoos or colored hair is inappropriate. After all, if blue is okay for 60 and over- why not for a 16 year old and younger.  It needs to stop. Stop majoring in the minors.  So much arguing. Tragic to our testimonies.  How about we focus on building relationships rather than on building division. Building trust rather than building an argument.  Having conversations rather than starting unnecessary combat.

In fact, how about we become known more for our love for God and for each other rather than our disdain for others we disagree with?  To me, that sounds just about right. ;-)

Paul says, “Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God.  Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.  Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.” Eph 4:1-3

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